We have all heard that communication is the key to a happy and successful relationship be it personal or professional. When it comes to personal romantic relationships, the need to communicate increases as we go through a whirlpool of emotions, situations and mental blocks.
The key to improving communication in romantic relationships lies in non-violent approach and being non judgmental. This implies that you should be able to see the situations with emotional clarity, have willingness to accept mistakes and make yourself approachable. Do not let preconceived notions make a mess as there can be genuine reasons or struggles that you partner is going through. Employing a non judgmental approach also makes us deal with our feelings first as it takes effort to arrive at that state of mind.
Here are three ways to improve communication in romantic relationships in a non judgmental and non violent way:
- Understand your emotions- it is important to understand our own selves before expecting others to do so or trying to understand them. All issues have some underlying emotion underneath like insecurity and jealousy. Once you understand your emotions, be clear in expressing them without hesitation as it will make you feel safe and help your partner understand you better. Once they see your openness in putting forth your emotions clearly, it gives them the platform to communicate back in the same manner.
- Expressing needs- No matter how much we try do keep our expectations low, we are bound to have them in any relationship. In a romantic relationship, they might keep growing as the relationship progresses. To make sure you feel loved and appreciated, begin to express your needs clearly. Do not be unreasonable but try to communication your needs only when they are very important to you. If you are someone who expects the partner to respect your time, say it in a delicate manner and tell them it really matters to you. If they care for you, they will try to meet your expectations. Otherwise, you will always feel neglected and it can blow out of proportion if bolted up for long.
- Evoking positivity- Everyone wants to be cherished by their romantic partner. The key to this is to have positive emotions about your partner and relationship. Let go of passive and descriptive responses and choose to respond to you partner in a positive manner. Learn to appreciate them and show genuine interest. Positivity with clarity can do wonders for a relationship making both partners feel happy with each other.